If you are like me, then you probably believe in true love
stories and the idea that there is someone who was created specifically for
you. I love everything that has to do with rose petals and bright smiles and colours and happy endings! In this world we live in, however,
people don’t believe that love exists. The sad truth though is that people are
getting into relationships, not because of love, but because of lust. Also, I feel
that sometimes they don’t open their hearts because everybody is afraid of
being hurt. With all these reasons, no one is then willing to wait on true
love. We have become so impatient to
wait for our God ordained partners. “Waiting is such a drag!” or “YOLO”, they
say. While it is true that you only have this one chance on earth, I feel that
this phrase is used recklessly. You need to be careful about what you do today
because today’s choices affects tomorrow’s outcome, just so you know.
Teach yourself not to settle for less than what you deserve.
Ladies, you were not created to be somebody’s ‘side chick’ or even ‘main chick’
(I feel that this perception of main chick makes it acceptable for him to have
other people for as long as you know and accept that you are the MAIN one). None
of that is okay. You were created to be the ONLY one. Also, understand this; if
you are being abused, know that you are not the problem. Don’t subject yourself
to such cruelty. It is time to stop compromising your purity for someone who
does not even intend to stay or worse, someone who is unsure of themselves and
giving parts of yourself to people who don’t even deserve you which causes you
to lose yourself in the process. Who you give your heart to is at your
discretion, remember that. You are a dime, fellow lady and gentleman. Don’t you
think that it is about time that you see yourself as exactly that?
Don’t be in a rush to get him or her tonight. It all takes
time and good things surely do come to those who wait. What I learned from
waiting is that it makes you appreciate what you have been waiting for even
more when it does come. Think of it this way, when you go out shopping on
somebody else’s account, for example, you sort of just take things from the
shelves without really caring about the price because you are not paying but
had it been your money (that you probably worked really hard to get) then you
might just be extra careful on how you spend it and what you spend it on. In contrast
to waiting, the effort that you put into waiting is what will cause you to
place value on whom or what you wait for. Would you really just surrender
yourself to someone who does not care about you after years of waiting for
someone who will love and care for you for real? I don’t think so. Make your
wait worth the while.
Just a reminder, there is no shame in being single. There is
absolutely NOTHING wrong with it! Learn to be comfortable with being alone
instead of getting into or being in toxic relationships only because you feel
like you won’t be able to manage on your own. I think it’s actually a blessing
to be single because you get the opportunity to work on yourself. You need to
understand that relationships are about give and take and you are ONE (yourself)
before you are anybody else’s or with somebody. That’s why it’s important for
you to be filled before getting into a relationship. You are like a cup. You need
to fill yourself up with all sorts of goodness that you can pour into your significant
other. But if you do not take the time to fill yourself up then you won’t have
anything to offer. So fill yourself up with all things constructive, beautiful
and long lasting. Take time to get to know yourself, take up new hobbies, read books
and empower yourself but most importantly, LOCK
UP YOUR HEART AND GIVE IT TO GOD; HE WILL GIVE IT TO THE RIGHT PERSON.
I have experienced love in ways I thought I never could and
because of this, I believe that if you simply wait, it shall come to you too.
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